What a woman wants

Giving her a meaningful forever after

Every girl will treat you EXACTLY as you've treated her. From beginning to end, she NEEDS to be treated with love and affection unlike anything prior to you. Why? Because if you’re not the best, why is she with you? Why is she denying the countless men who pursue her? You are ALWAYS competing for her beauty, devotion and happily ever after. She is expensive. And she should be expensive, lest you find undeserving men feeling entitled to YOUR FUTURE WIFE.

Notice the after in, “happily ever after”. Why after? Because you need to be the character she desires for her fairytale BEFORE you attempt to brave her heart. When you think of your hero, do you imagine them before they were good enough to be drawn into your mind? No. Nor should you expect her to BURDEN such a loss. And it is a burden. She is SACRIFICING her feminine energy, forcing herself into masculinity as a means to make up for you being less than the prince promised to her by her father. And would you expect your own daughter to accept such a love? No.

Read: SHE DOES NOT EXIST TO FIX YOU.

Make her your art, muse, song and reason to live. Let her know you love her enough to endlessly give. Reassure her whenever you have the chance; hoping to have fun with her in each circumstance. If you do not make art of her beauty YOU ARE WASTING HER IMMORTALITY.

"Either have children or become a saint, because eventually, you have to find something you love more than you love yourself." –Naval Ravikant

Cook for her whenever possible. Her beauty and temperament DEPEND not only on good food, but having a GOOD RELATIONSHIP with that food. When it is made with love, it is remembered with love. Remember, you are nourishing the tummy your FUTURE CHILDREN will reside in.

When she is emotional and suffering, you MUST be patient with her. Even if you cannot say anything at all, it is always better than abandoning her. You must accept she WILL at some point require sacrifices of your time. Because time is what she VALUES MOST. Speak her love language.

Plan out CREATIVE time. It doesn't need to be much, or even followed through. The point is you must ALWAYS make sure there is a point in the future where you are biased toward BEING WITH HER. Knowing her. Loving her. Keeping her. This is what it means to give your lover direction.

She NEEDS to be WANTED and WANTS to be NEEDED.

Passion is ONLY sustainable when you are curious about who she is. Make a HABIT of viewing her as your WIFE. Asking yourself what a good wife looks like. Guide her gently to your conclusion, LISTENING TO HER along the way. She will by default wish this of you, but never herself say it.

You may think you have done enough by making her your own, probably with more competence than you could USUALLY AFFORD. Make it your MISSION to be the person she fell in love with. The beginning of your love must be THE BASELINE of what you’re willing to provide. You must both aim and take action to give her MORE than first promised by your romances.

Give her AT LEAST one gift a week, preferably something you made yourself. I've seen far too many men never give their lovers anything at all. These men are scum. Don't be like that. Her time alone is a gift. She's buying you with her LIFE FORCE. Her youth is binding exclusively to you. You are the host of her heart. Take hold of it with unwavering GRATITUDE.

“Gratitude is not only the greatest of the virtues, but the parent of all of the others” –Cicero

Your peace is her capacity for joy. She is playful. She is chaos. She is a journey. But only when you're COMPETENT in defeating your own demons is this a story worth telling. Slaughter the parts of you that aren't good enough for her at every turn. She is MADONNA, you're aiming to be a GOD among MEN.

There is a reason girls like rude, closed off men. These kinds of men afford women the capacity to EXERCISE FEMININITY. Now, this isn’t the ideal way of allowing her to express her femininity, it's simply the most common exchange women know to escape what many men make MANDATORY through their weakness: The desire to be a supportive, revitalizing force.

Men and women alike become stuck in TRAUMA CYCLES through such relationships, with the men learning never to trust well meaning women; and women learning that when she probes a seemingly hardened or reliably unphased man, she will find, and soon expect, quite the OPPOSITE in all men.

The important takeaway is here is that you must challenge her: Play hard games with her, OCCASIONALLY letting her win. Power means nothing if you’re not humble enough to relinquish it. To accept yourself without it. To secret her the parts of yourself only she is entitled to.

“To live without risk is to risk not living.” –Pope Pius XII

Risk great deals of your time in the pursuit of producing art for her soul.

How you do something is how you do everything. Are you willing to write out lakes of beautiful poetry? Dance her through the maxims of a sonata? Paint her as if she'd never been scarred? Read her to sleep every night? Kiss her, hold her and always tell her she’ll be alright?

Make the answer yes. Even if it's hard. Men must ALWAYS do hard things, simply because they ARE hard. Because the difficult things in life are the humblings and fortunes of gratitude. Make yourself wealthy on this, and love will find you in her every sense.

Remind her of the times she did well, the times she exceeded your expectations. Make her your PRIDE and JOY. When she is not making you proud, she is prone to shame. Her PURPOSE is to fruit divine life just for you. Don't let her succumb to illusions spawned from your failure.

You NEED to be this kind of man not only for her, but for YOUR CHILDREN. Being able to hold tangible memories of how romantic you were with your wife is crucial to a healthy capacity to map their TRUEST LOVE into the world. Be their hero. You’re fated to be the ideal candidate for the job.

The responsibility for TRUTH must ALWAYS be yours. Beauty is truth, and truth is beauty. If she is to sustain the weight of beauty, you too must sustain the WEIGHT OF TRUTH. Tell her you love her when the conversations settle down. Use your every breath to make it known.

Be a ruler, and she will be your sword. Be a conqueror, and she will be your shield. Have you ever known a shield to cut down illusions? This is the death of every conqueror. The failure to see what's right in front of you. Be grateful for her, she's right there.

Codependency is an attractive option for a girl who has never been helped to become independent. Don't let her choose this. You must force her to become independent WITH your guidance. It is only from this that you can achieve a true fusion of self and soul with one another.

Meaning, if she is not able to be herself and choose you, she has never really chosen you, and you have never really been verified as worthy. Do you want this to be what your children see? A cowardly father? I didn't think so.

Take the long road. It's harder, but lasts forever.

If you've read this far, I know it was worth it. Your future wife will make fruits of your eternity. She will love you as judiciously as you love her. And your children will be able to look at you with honesty, knowing that you are not like the illusions of the outside world.

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